Main ke Belajar?

Last 2 weeks, me n husband pergi parenting seminar.

Its about how to deal with our children through their childhood.
One of the speaker keep highlighting the importance of play for the children.
And she doesn't agree that parents keep highlight the academic needs since young.

As for me, I do agree, our children need to play. Its their time to play.
And I always belief that we learn much more through play.
Yup its good for their EQ. Yes, EQ is very important..but we can't neglect the IQ part..
Somehow, they support each other in many ways.

For me, those with good EQ but low on IQ can survive if they on their own only
and those with good IQ but low on EQ can also survive but MORE STRUGGLE
but those with good EQ and good IQ can benefit others even the community so much more..
Its really difficult to explain or get my thought out on this particular things..
Its just something that you need to experience

Its undeniable that PLAY are for children but we must consider other aspect as well.
In the developed country, this concept is applicable. But for our country, which is a developing country where the citizens still struggling to earn a cents, where its still using the old-style education system, only Play will not work.

one thing we must remember, among children pun ada semangat kompetitif, ada perasaan ingin diterima di kalangan rakan-rakan sebaya.
In Malaysia, darjah 1 dah perlu membaca dan kenal nombor..so, secara x langsung, parents akan target untuk perkara tu.
Just imagine, bila kita terapkan main sahaja...no exposure to alphabets and numbers, masuk sekolah, when they see that their friends already know numbers and alphabets even reading and to calculate, how would they feel about themselves? belum hadap budak2 yg jenis mengejek lagi...all these does effect their EQ during that time...So? 

For me, the concept betul tp kita kena sesuaikan dengan environment kita..
contoh mcm kids in the war country, kita dah saksikan, budak 5-6 tahun dah pandai pegang all kind of guns..with the tactical move and byk lagi...kita nk kata mereka salah ke? parents mereka salah ke?

So, sesuaikanlah..

Sekarang kita banyak pilihan, tadika yang terapkan belajar dalam bermain pn dah banyak...
tak memaksa mereka untuk tahu semua, tp at least kita dah exposed them to things that required in our system..

Masing2 ada cara sendiri dalam mentafsir dan mengaplikasikan..x minta terima my way of thinking because everyone have their own pertimbangan dalam membuat keputusan n I respect that because I know niat semua sama, nk beri yang terbaik..

Oklah, hope bermanfaat..nk bla dah..office nk tutup.

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Job seeker



Its been a while since I seek for another job. Its not I'm ungrateful to work with my father which there are a lot of free time, more flexible time and etc. But, I need a life challenge, here particularly work challenge. So that, I can claim that I'm a success person.

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The reason of me furthering study to Master level is to equip myself with new skill to make it easier in applying job. But, when I put it in resume, employer tend to reject immediately maybe because they they don't want to pay more for me (for the extra degree). Why not, if I'm suit for the position, call me first, then ask if I'm OK with the pay they want to offer. I don't know, or maybe I'm not even reach their lowest requirement. Who knows.

This is cliche, the employer always prefer the experienced one. Its not easy to find the work experience or maybe we are the one who chose the starting job.

Thinking of swapping to other field. Need to start from the ground. I'm ok with it but as having my own family, its quite difficult when the salary can't match my commitment needs. At the end, I have to choose a good job with a good salary.

At the end, need to go back to Allah and ask Him to show His guidance in my career by Istikharah.

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Biting own tongue

 




I and my husband always fight over Chinese ancient drama (my favorite) and Tamil drama (his favorite). He is the one who always start it. While watching the drama (fighting scene), he will said, these Chinese drama always over react. Just a punch, and the blood spill out like a gallon. And I said back, its still can be accepted than the Tamil drama. I said to him, in Tamil drama, how hard the guy being punched, then fall from high place, hit by a car and etc; but he still ok. That what we call 'no logic'.

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Almost every ancient chinese drama, there will be a scene where the actor/actress will bite their tongue in order to kill themselves. And 100% they will die immediately. Watching this just now (currently watching Legend of Hao Lan), reminded me of a patient during my housemanship in medical department 5 years ago.

During my tagging night around 10pm (I'm about to leave), the nurse suddenly call me saying the patient was biting his tongue and lot of bloods coming out. The patient was a post coma patient, at the time, her whole body was paralyze. I attend to her and saw her tongue was cut and bleeding. I asked the staff nurse to suction out the blood. At the same time, we put the oropharyngeal airway (or guedel) to prevent her from keep biting her tongue but she kept push the guedel out using her tongue. The last thing we did was tape in the guedel to her mouth and put gauzes to the side.

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I was very mad at the time. I raised a bit of my voice and ask the patient to stop fighting our effort to stop her bleeding. Then, after a while, she stop (I think, she got tired). Then, while waiting for my MO to come, I sat at the nurse centre. They said that, the patient always try to bite her tongue as she want to die faster. Previously, during in ICU, her husband comes almost every day. But after few months, her husband rarely come and now only come once a week or biweekly.

My MO come and just ask if everything is ok. As I remembered, she did not go to the patient. She only do the report clerking based on our story to the computer. I really sad to see this kind of MO. Even in her management plan, she does not include to refer to psychologist or psychiatry department (I already suggest to her). After she went back to whereever she come (As I know, there are no other urgent cases she need to attend at the time). Then, I chart my part of reporting. I state in my management, to refer the patient to psychology department and to monitor her hourly as she was losing lots of bloods just now.

Then, I went to the patient bed. I gave her some advice. For whatever happened, u can be sad, u can cry out loud, but please don't harm or try to kill yourselves. Allah gave you this test, and you're getting lot of pahala for this. By killing yourselves, you will just go straight to the hell. Is it worth? I may not know or felt her pain at the time. I know she felt hopeless. In addition she was losing her moral support. Then, I said to her. I don't know what u feel about your husband, but there could be so many reason for him to come only one time a week. But to ease your thought, think positively. Maybe, he have lots of work need to be done back home. Maybe there are other problem that he can't tell you as he doesn't want to burden you. So, keep istighfar. Then, I saw her take a breath and I can see her cooling down. After about 15 minutes, I came back to her bed, and I can see her sleeping calmly. Then only, I went back home (Tomorrow need to punch in before 7am)


I'm not bragging out
its just my satisfaction






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Restart blogging

Macam biasa..lama dah x usik blog ni..
Ak ingat lepas ni nk start berblogging regularly..
As ak ni banyak benda nk luah..tapi x ada yang nk melayan..
Ooh ye, as ak nk improve semula English ak. jadi ak akan speaking ya di sini.

For the start, I will recap my Ramadhan 1440H journey
1. Ersyad was admitted on 5th of Ramadhan for 5 nights with diagnosis of acute bronchiolitis. Was started on Flixotide inhaler.


2. Ersyad and Harith was admitted on 18th of Ramadhan for 4 nights with same diagnosis.


3. Having the big family iftar at Hospital on 20th of Ramadhan (D4 of admission)



As for Syawal, we are very grateful that we can celebrate the Eid outside from the hospital. This year is Adam's turn for Eid. So, went back to Penang for 5 days.



Having 7 days staying together with his cousins, Harith having wild habit as well. Not saying my son is better but before he is very soft and gentle but like to disturb his friends once in a while. After the cousin's exposure, he like to push and kick his brother or other kids. I'm really sad on this. Need to polish him back.

Its different for being weak and being soft. Its also different for being strong and being rough.
For me, having too much small kids and being out of control is not an excuse to let you child act roughly at their will. If you can't manage, control your childbirth space in the future (Sorry for the harshness). I really hate when my in-laws said that my sons are weak or said my husband is a loser even they just meant to joke. But I as in-law just can make a poker face.

During this Eid, I'm being really upset for all the sudden change of plan + my son being bullied + long in-transport-time. Its exhausting body and mind. But, that is the nature when we are having our time with others. Not everyone want to compensate with others. Sometimes their selfishness kill others joy.

The last thing to do is, just forgave all.


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